The gloves are coming off.

Surprise me View in browser November 02, 2018 Arian Lobon    This week I'm still on tour with Call Your Girlfriend, which means I've been spending a lot of time in front of groups of people who are devastated by what's happening in America right now. Our show on Tuesday was at the Sixth & I historic synagogue in Washington, D.C. Here's the statement we read before the event, which I also want to share with all of you: "To convene in a Jewish house of worship has frequently been a radical act, even for a secular event like this. We could not enjoy this beautiful night in this space without acknowledging the terrible, targeted attacks around the country like the recent one at the Tree of Life Synagogue in Pittsburgh. These are hate crimes, plain and simple, and we will continue to call them what they are. Before we begin our show, we'd like to share this remembrance of Dr. Jerry Rabinowitz, one of those killed at Tree of Life on Saturday, from one of his former patients, Michael Kerr: In the old days, for HIV patients in Pittsburgh, he was to one to go to. Basically before there was effective treatment for fighting HIV itself, he was known in the community for keeping us alive the longest. He often held our hands (without rubber gloves) and always always hugged us as we left his office.  "Dr. Rabinowitz always stood during the Jewish prayer for mourning, saying he had no children who would one day stand for him, so he stood for others who had no one to honor their memory. His entire community stood for him Sunday, and we stand for him, today and always. "Please stand with us in a moment of silence to honor Dr Rabinowitz, his fellow worshippers at the Tree of Life Synagogue: Joyce Fienberg, Richard Gottfried, Rose Mallinger, David and Cecil Rosenthal, Bernice and Sylvan Simon, Daniel Stein, Melvin Wax, and Irving Younger. We also remember Maurice Stallard and Vickie Jones, who were killed in a Louisville grocery store last week, after the shooter tried and failed to enter a black church nearby. "As the poem says, 'For as long as we live, they too will live, for they are now a part of us as, We remember them.' " I keep coming back to this story about Dr. Rabinowitz because it's about love beating fear. He often held our hands without rubber gloves. That's what I'm trying to channel. I'm trying to figure out the love-based response to my fears about the outcome of these midterm elections, my fears that this administration has stoked so much hatred we'll never be able to recover as a nation, my fears for the safety of people I care about. In this moment, in my life, which acts are the equivalent of holding hands without rubber gloves?   I'm reading The neuroscience of hate speech. Voting is a right, but most states don't protect it. The stories of school-shooting survivors. Housing can't be affordable and a great investment. Where the "gig economy" is just the economy. How Mark Zuckerberg became too big to fail. The case for lurking. The wrong kind of trans visibility. How the KKK used conspiracy theories. The myth of whiteness in classical sculpture. Rest in power, Ntozake Shange. Jessica Hopper talks to Robyn about depression and therapy and growing up. When doctors don't listen to women. Sniffing around with a super-smeller. Going all in on every "wellness" option in L.A. Is CBD just snake oil? And we talk about a lot of great new books on this week's episode of CYG. Members only You can support this newsletter by becoming a paying member for just $5/year. If you do, you'll see a chart in this space every week! Today you're missing my hand-drawn roast of eligible voters who say they aren't casting a ballot. I'm looking & listening Oprah and Michael B. Jordan canvassing for Stacey Abrams in Georgia. The Shadows podcast. Great British Bake-Off reruns (the Mary Berry years for maximum comfort). GIFspiration Put another way: You better vote, boo! I endorse VOTING, obviously! You've got an election day plan, right? You know when and where you're going to vote on Tuesday? You're bringing several friends along? Get to the Polls has all the specific info you need.  Oh, you've already voted early? Great. If you've got a few spare hours this weekend, you should consider canvassing near you to get some strangers out to vote, too. Just enter your zip code at Swing Left to find a district nearby. For my fellow Californians... Here's the League of Women voters guide on the ballot propositions. For Angelenos, check out this voting guide by Tracy Jeanne Rosenthal, whose recs I always like to reference. And here's a guide for San Francisco residents. You endorse The Week in Good News. "I get the morning briefing from NYTimes in my inbox daily and it's the first thing I read in the mornings. Fridays are my favorite for this special roundup: the week in good news. I rarely read the full articles, but just the headlines and brief descriptions alone are enough to put a smile on my face. This week's featured advice from the world's oldest barber ("eat thin spaghetti, so I don't get fat") and a story about emotional support miniature horses. 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ONA’s Women’s Leadership Accelerator is a yearlong program that helps women in journalism level up their careers. Apply by Nov. 30. A pro-choice Christian OBGYN, an award-winning comedian + an abortion doula get real about choice—for charity! Nov 5! Get tix or livestream! At Apostrophe Copywriters, we have the words you’re missing. Brand | Websites | Clever headlines. Let us write for you. You've only got a few weeks to purchase ads before the end of the year! Click for rates + info. Testimonials ". @annfriedman's Friday newsletter/reading list is like self-care for my inbox." -Catherine Woodiwiss. In these trying times, I don't know how sending you more email and links to read is helping you with self-care. But I'll take this generous compliment! This newsletter is trying to go gloveless. Forward it to someone who loves without fear. 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