Hi Friend-
I don't know about you, but this winter-into-spring transition has been hitting me hard. I've been engaging in some intense, but highly necessary, self-reflection that I've started to think of as "spring karming." (Get it? It's like a spring cleaning/karma review.)
And this week's brand new Hurry Slowly episode falls right into line with this self-reflective spirit. I chat with writer and meditation teacher Sebene Selassie about confronting your inner critic, finding emotional clarity, and asking: "What am I not willing to feel?"
We talk about the tangles that we get into with self-talk, and how meditation — or really any spiritual or contemplative practice — can help to start unravelling patterns of self-doubt and create space for more joy.
Listen to "Unravelling Your Inner Critic"
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The quiet ego. I loved this piece from Scott Barry Kaufman on why quieting your ego makes you more likely to achieve your goals: "It turns out that quieting the ego is much more effective in cultivating well-being, growth, health, productivity, and a healthy, productive self-esteem than focusing loudly on self-enhancement."
The paradox of meritocracy. I've long been an advocate of talking more about the role of luck — versus merit — in personal success. But I didn't know that believing in meritocracy is actually quite toxic: "In addition to being false, a growing body of research in psychology and neuroscience suggests that believing in meritocracy makes people more selfish, less self-critical and even more prone to acting in discriminatory ways. Meritocracy is not only wrong; it's bad."
The icy couch. I really enjoyed this piece on resting with pain by zen teacher Charlotte Joko Beck: "Our whole strategic drive is for pleasantness. We want somebody to comfort us, save us, give us peace. Our ceaseless thinking, planning, and plotting are always about this. Only when we stay with what is beneath the imaginary film and rest there, do we begin to have a clue."
The servant economy. An incisive commentary on who's really doing the "sharing" in the sharing economy from Alexis Madrigal: "For centuries, a woman's social status was clear-cut: either she had a maid or she was one. Domestic servants — to walk the dog, do the laundry, clean the house, get groceries — were a fixture of life in America well into the 20th century. In the short-lived narrowing of economic fortunes wrapped around the Second World War that created what Americans think of as 'the middle class,' servants became far less common, even as dual-income families became more the norm and the hours Americans worked lengthened."
(Round out your reading about the lost promise of the sharing economy with this excellent longread.)
+ 88 important truths I've learned about life.
+ Treat your work time like you're driving.
+ Aminatou Sow on making $300,000.
+ Why "be yourself" is bad advice.
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Hi, I'm Jocelyn, the human behind this newsletter. I created the online course RESET, a cosmic tune-up for your workday, and I host Hurry Slowly, a podcast about how you can be more productive, creative, and resilient by slowing down. Occasionally, I write books and give talks too. | | | | |
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